Safe Dating Tips: Online Dating Site Rules & Recommendations

When meeting strangers online for the purpose of dating, it is crucial to consider personal safety, especially since MODINCA does not conduct background checks on its members. Your safety is ultimately your own responsibility, and as such, please use common sense practices to safeguard against undesirable elements and/or potentially dangerous situations. To learn more details about ways to help you stay safe while dating online visit the Federal Trade Commission's Online Dating Scam site . The following are the steps that we STRONGLY RECOMMEND that our members adhere to while dating, both online and offline. PLEASE read them carefully before you venture out to communicate, meet and ultimately date people from this site.

Online safety tips

Guard your personal and online access information

Do not provide any personal information – your full name, phone number, home address, email address, place of work, etc. – in your profile or username. Remain anonymous until you feel absolutely safe. Use the member-to-member messaging feature provided by the MODINCA software platform in order to protect your identity until you decide to reveal it through email, IM or other means.

Use extra caution when accessing your account from a public or shared computer so that others cannot view or record your password or other personal information. If you share your computer with others, disable the auto sign-in feature to your account and clear all saved passwords.

Note: We will never send you an email asking for your username and password information. Any such communication should be reported immediately.

Protect your finances

Never give financial information (such as your social security number, credit card number or bank information) to people you don't know or you have not met in person. Do not respond to any request to send or wire money anywhere for any reason whatsoever, and report it to us immediately. Please be wary that the scammers can be very convincing. Wiring money is like sending cash: the sender has no protections against loss and it's nearly impossible to reverse the transaction or trace the money.

Watch out for scammers

The following are some of the red flags to watch out for.

• They offer something that sounds too good to be true and ask you to act immediately.

• They ask to talk or chat on an outside email or messaging service very early in the getting acquainted phase.

• They claim that they are currently travelling, living or working abroad.

• They request money from you.

• They disappear from the site, then return under a different name.

• They talk about "destiny" or "fate".

• They claim to be recently widowed.

• They ask for your address under the guise of sending flowers or gifts.

• They make more than usual amount of grammatical and/or spelling errors.

• They send you emails containing strange links to third-party websites.

• They do not want to talk on the phone or decline to meet in person.

• They want to communicate right away through means other than the MODINCA’s messaging feature.

• They pressure you for personal information such as your phone number, email address, etc. when you’re not ready to share such information with them.

• They want to start a serious relationship too early in your judgment.

Block and report suspicious users

Be cautious and use common sense. If personal details provided by another person do not seem to add up, they behave suspiciously, or pressure you for personal or financial information – block communications with that person and report them to us immediately. You can block and report concerns about any suspicious user anonymously from their profile page by clicking the “Block user” and “Report” links. Additionally, please report anyone who violates our Terms of Service . Some of the examples of Terms of Service violations include but not limited to:

• Request for money or donations

• Married people or minors using the service

• Members sending harassing or offensive emails/IMs

• Members behaving inappropriately before, during or after meeting in person

• Fraudulent registration or profiles

• Spam or solicitation, such as invitations to call 1-900 numbers or attempts to sell products or services

Offline safety tips

Meeting someone for the first time is exciting, however, always take precautions and use the following guidelines. Get to know the other person before meeting them offline Remain anonymous using MODINCA’s messaging feature until you feel comfortable before disclosing personal information or meeting in person. We do not conduct criminal background screenings of our users, so if you would like more information about someone, please use the internet and government resources. This can include typing the person's name into a search engine, checking out their social media pages, reviewing public information made available by government offices, or using a paid service to obtain a full background report. Research! Do your due diligence!

Always meet in public

Meet for the first time in a populated, public location – never in a private or remote location, never at your home or apartment, and never at your date's home or apartment. In fact, we recommend continuing to meet in a public place until you are absolutely certain that you’d be safe.

Stay in a public place

Do not to go back to your date's home or bring them back to yours until you feel safe and comfortable based on your knowledge of the person. Doing so before you know them well enough, especially on the first date, is seriously asking for trouble. If you’re pressured by your date at any time, end the date immediately.

Tell a friend or family member

Inform a friend or family member of your date plans including date, time and location. Keep your mobile phone with you at all times. Arrange to contact a friend or a family member when the date is over.

Stay sober

• Stay alert. Do not do anything that would impair your judgment and cause you to make a poor decision. Watch your alcohol intake.

• Drive yourself to and from the first meeting.

• Always have your own ride, even if you take a taxi.

• Keep personal items with you at all times.

• Do not risk having personal items or information stolen. If you're drinking, do not leave your drink unattended.

• Vet the person by asking pertinent questions.

• Inquire about your date’s MODINCA interests listed in his/her profile. Grill them (nicely) about their knowledge on the particular MODINCA interests they claim to enjoy. Also ask specific questions about their relationship with family and friends. Make note of the information given and inquire about it again at a future date to see if there are any discrepancies.

Long distance meetings

We do not recommend long distance meetings due to unique safety concerns they pose. If you must take a long distance trip to meet someone, please keep the following precautions in mind.

• Stay in a hotel and do not stay in the other person's home. If you cannot afford a hotel, you should not go.

• Secure your own ride. Take a taxi or drive a rental car to get around. Do not allow the person you’re meeting to pick you up from the airport.

• Do not inform your date of where you are staying.

• Inform your family and friends of your complete itinerary from the time of departure to the time of return. Keep them abreast of your whereabouts throughout the trip.
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